Wedding Policies

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HREF="id56_reverend_david_f__jarvis_interim_pastor.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Contact Us">SIGNIFICANT TELEPHONE NUMBERS</A></div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B> <A NAME="holy_union_policy"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>Holy Union Policy</B></div> <div> <B>United Church of Christ in North Hampton</B></div> <bR> <div>  <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Times New Roman" >     </FONT><FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Lucida Calligraphy" ><IMG SRC="17948430.png" border=0 width="72" height="67" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></FONT></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <div> A Holy Union is more than a public ceremony.  A Holy Union is also a worship service of a deeply spiritual nature that is not to be taken lightly or as a matter of convenience.  Give serious thought, then, to what you want your ceremony to say to those present.  Whether we acknowledge it, God is part of all relationships and Holy Unions represent the steadfast, covenantal, and passionate love of God.  Holy Unions should publicly state what the couple has come to know privately and proclaim the presence of God in that relationship.</div> <bR> <div>      The policy of the United Church of Christ in North Hampton is that the Pastor(s) and the Music Director (as organist or pianist) have first right of refusal for a Holy Union performed within the church building.  The Pastor(s) is (are) very open to co-officiating with another faith leader who has historical relationship with or particular meaning for the couple with the understand that the Pastor(s) would still maintain leadership within the church building.</div> <bR> <div>      The United Church of Christ in North Hampton is a living, breathing community which worships a Living God.  We want to further strong relationships and discourage the use of church buildings as “ornamental” or church staff as ancillary to important and meaningful Christian ritual.  </div> <bR> <div> <I>Requirements:</I></div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">If neither person is a member, associate member, or friend of the United Church of Christ in North Hampton, the Holy Union must be sponsored by a member or associate member within the church.</div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Four to five counseling sessions with Pastor or, if coming from a distance, another counselor certified to lead a couple through the Prepare/Enrich counseling materials.  (See <FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Times New Roman" ><A HREF="http://www.lifeinnovations.com" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://www.lifeinnovations.com"><U>www.lifeinnovations.com</U></A></FONT> for possible counselors in a proximate geographical area.)  A $30 check written out to “Life Innovations, Inc.” is required to process inventories filled out at the first counseling session.  Please have the check ready for the first session.  A minimum of three to four months is required for this counseling and at least one follow-up counseling session, within the first year, is recommended.</div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">There shall be a rehearsal, in proximate relationship to the actual ceremony.  If at all possible, rehearsals should include all musicians and participants who are involved in the actual Holy Union service.  The Pastor(s) shall lead through the entire service once, stopping to give direction, and then go through the basics of the service again without stopping.</div> <bR> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Please present your marriage license to the officiating pastor at the rehearsal.  </B>Unless there are extenuating circumstances, the rehearsal and ceremony will not go forward without it.</div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Flash photography is allowed for all non-speaking parts of the Holy Union ceremony.  Please share this policy with your photographer.  Please also ask your photographer to use foresight in setting up pictures taken during the Holy Union ceremony and discretion in moving from place to place during the Holy Union ceremony.</div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Respect for church property through counseling to rehearsal to ceremony.  This respect includes asking to use specific church property before its use, remaining only in areas of the church building necessary for your counseling, rehearsal, and Holy Union ceremony.  No smoking or alcohol use is allowed on church grounds.  Please delegate people to clean up after use of the church grounds or building and to gather all items left from the ceremony.  Do not deface or destroy pianos, pews, carpeting, etcetera.  <B>Any damage to property or extra cleaning costs will be charged to the couple or their sponsor.</B></div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00c500f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">There are certain costs for a Holy Union ceremony you are expected to assume if you are using church buildings or staff.  If you are a member, associate member, or friend of the church, there is no payment for church buildings or Pastor(s).  Attached please find the payment and policy for the church Music Director.  If you are not a member, associate member, or friend of the church, and using one of the church buildings also attached is the <I>Building Use Policy</I>.  All building use costs, including deposit, are to be paid a month in advance of the Holy Union ceremony or the ceremony shall not proceed.   The Pastor officiating a Holy Union ceremony asks $175  for a couple that has no member, associate member, or friend of the church.</div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> ------------------------------------------------------------------------------</div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B> <A NAME="holy_union"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>Holy Union</B></div> <div> <B>Information Sheet for the Pastor</B></div> <bR> <div> After you have read the <I>Requirements </I>from the <I>Holy Union Policy</I>, please fill in the requested information below and return it to:  United Church of Christ in North Hampton; Attn:  Holy Union Information; 295 Atlantic Avenue; North Hampton, NH  03862.</div> <bR> <div> Please check if you are related to the United Church of Christ in North Hampton as a:</div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73007100f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> Member</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73007100f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Associate Member</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73007100f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Friend</div> <bR> <div> <I>(please print)</I></div> <bR> <div> <U>Bride</U></div> <bR> <div> Name:  ____________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Address:  __________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Phone:  _________________________ E-mail:  ___________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Signature:  _________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> <U>Groom</U></div> <bR> <div> Name:  ____________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Address:  __________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Phone:  _________________________ E-mail:  ___________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Signature:  _________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Are there any children being brought into this Holy Union?  __________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Are you presently cohabitating?  ________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Date of Ceremony:  ________________________  Time of Ceremony: ________________________</div> <bR> <div> Date of Rehearsal:  ________________________    Time of Rehearsal: ________________________</div> <bR> <div> * Place of Rehearsal and Ceremony:  ___________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Day of the week and time most available for pre-marital counseling:  _____________________________</div> <bR> <bR> <div> * If using Little River Church or the church building on North Hill, please review the attached <I>Conditions for Use of Space</I> and complete the <I>Space Use Request</I> form and return with this <I>Holy Union Information Sheet</I> to the address above.</div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <div> <B>-----------------------------------------------------------------------</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B> <A NAME="wedding_music_suggestions"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>WEDDING MUSIC SUGGESTIONS</B></div> <bR> <div> AS GUESTS ARE SEATED</div> <div>      Canon in D                                                              Pachelbel</div> <div>      Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring                                      J. S. Bach</div> <div>      Air from “<I>Water Music</I>”                                          G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Allegro Vivace from “<I>Water Music</I>”                         G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Pastoral Symphony from “<I>Messiah</I>”                         G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Sleepers Wake                                                         J. S. Bach</div> <div>      Spring from “<I>Four Seasons</I>”                                     Vivaldi</div> <div>      Siciliana from “<I>Royal Fireworks Music</I>”                    G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Minuets I + II from “<I>Royal Fireworks Music</I>”           G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Adagio Cantabile from “<I>Violin Sonata #3</I>                  J. S. Bach</div> <div>      Air on the G String                                                     J. S. Bach</div> <bR> <div> SEATING OF MOTHERS</div> <div>      <I>Any of above or family favorite</I></div> <div>      Morning Has Broken                                                 Gaelic Melody</div> <div>      Ode to Joy from “<I>9</I><I>th</I><I> Synphony</I>”                              L. Beethoven</div> <div>      Love's Old Sweet Song                                             J.L. Molloy</div> <bR> <div> PROCESSIONAL</div> <div>      Bridal Chorus from <I>“Lohengrin</I>”                              R. Wagner</div> <div>           <I>(Here Comes the Bride)</I></div> <div>      Trumpet Tune                                                           Henry Purcell</div> <div>      Trumpet Voluntary                                                    Jeremiah Clarke</div> <div>      Trumpet Voluntary                                                    John Stanley</div> <div>      Allegro Maestoso from “<I>Water Music</I>”                     G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Hornpipe from “<I>Water Music</I>”                                  G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Rondeau                                                                   Joseph Mouret</div> <div> <B> <A NAME="recessional"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B></div> <div> RECESSIONAL</div> <div>      Wedding March from “Midsummer Night's Dream     Mendelssohn</div> <div>      Hornpipe  from “Water Music”                                  G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Allegro from “Royal Fireworks Music”                      G.F. Handel</div> <div>      Toccata and Fugue in D                                             J.S. Bach</div> <div>      Rondeau                                                                   Joseph Mouret</div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div>  <A NAME="church_organist_s_form__________coming"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A><FONT SIZE="4" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Times New Roman" ><B>Church Organist's Form      </B></FONT><FONT SIZE="4" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Times New Roman" ><B>--  Coming</B></FONT></div> <div> You may make arrangements with </div> <div> <B>Gail Adams, Music Director</B></div> <div> <I>Studio Phone: (207) 439-3861 e-mail: </I><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Times New Roman" ><A HREF="mailto: gastudio@ttlc.net" TARGET="_top" TITLE="mailto: gastudio@ttlc.net"><I>gastudio@ttlc.net</I></A></FONT></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <div> <B>-----------------------------------------------------------------------</B></div> <div>  <A NAME="sample_wedding_service______coming"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A><FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Times New Roman" ><B>Sample Wedding Service</B></FONT></div> <bR> <div> Holy Union Ceremony</div> <div> <IMG SRC="17b48430.png" border=0 width="72" height="67" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <bR> <div>      </div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> Below you will find some of the possibilities for your Holy Union ceremony.</div> <div> This list is not intended to be exhaustive but to help you with possibilities</div> <div> and perhaps simplify the process for decision-making.</div> <div> Please feel free to make choices of your own which reflect the spiritual nature of the ceremony</div> <div> and the deep commitment of your relationship.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>See Wedding  Music Suggestions</B></I></div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_music_suggestions" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">As Guests Are Seated</B></A></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_music_suggestions" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Seating of Families/Mothers</B></A></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_music_suggestions" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Processional</B></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <I><B>It is customary in our church to close the doors to the sanctuary after the last bridesmaid has processed.  The doors are then opened when the officiant asks the congregation to stand and the bride's processional music begins or the continuing processional music swells.</B></I></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <I><B>Appearance of Bride</B></I></div> <div>      <B>Officiant:  </B>Will those who are able please stand?</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Arrival of Bride</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:</B><B>  </B>Who represents the family in the blessing of this marriage?</div> <bR> <div> <B>Family Representative:  </B>I/We do.</div> <bR> <div> It is customary for the family representative to lift the veil, if there is one, and kiss the bride at this time.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Greeting</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B>The grace of our Sovereign Jesus Christ and the love of God and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you all.  Amen.</div> <bR> <div>      Dear friends, we have come together in the presence of God to witness the marriage of <I><U>  your full name  </U></I>and <I><U>  your full name  </U></I>to surround them with our prayers and to share in their joy.</div> <bR> <div>      The scriptures teach us that the bond and covenant of marriage is a gift of God, a holy mystery in which two people become one flesh, an image of the union of Christ and the church.</div> <bR> <div>      As these two people give themselves to each other in Christian love this day, we remember that at Cana in Galilee our Savior Jesus Christ made the wedding feast a sign of God's reign of love.  John says through this teaching that walking in God's way is like a wedding feast where the wine never ends.</div> <bR> <div>      Therefore, let us enter into this celebration of holy union confident that the love of <I><U>  first name  </U></I>and <I><U>  first name  </U></I>will never end, knowing that God's spirit wishes to bless their love for each other.  We pray that this couple may fulfill God's purpose for the whole of their lives.  You may be seated.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Introduction    </B></I><I>(Optional)</I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B>Before God and this congregation, I introduce to you <I><U>  your full name  </U></I>and <I><U>  your full name  </U></I>, two people who have found God's intimate and passionate love in one another.  They come before you all on this morning/ afternoon/evening to declare publicly what they have known privately for some time now:  they wish to lift one another up in love for the whole of their lives.  Let the signs of lifelong love lived in partnership echo throughout the world.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Opening Prayer</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B>Let us pray.  Gracious God, always faithful in your love for us, we rejoice in your presence.  You create love.  You united us in one human family.  You offer your word and lead us in light.  You open your loving arms and embrace us with strength.  May the presence of Christ fill our hearts with new joy and make new the lives of your servants whose holy union we celebrate.  Bless all creation through this sign of your love shown in the love of <I><U>  first name  </U></I>and <I><U>first name  </U></I>for each other.  May the power of your Holy Spirit connect them, give them peace, and sustain all of us in love that knows no end.  Amen.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Pledge of Support  </B></I><I><B>(Optional)</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B>As <I><U>  first name  </U></I>and <I><U>  first name  </U></I> declare their intent to wed, it is important to ask those who are gathered here to find yourselves in the declarations that they make.  <I><U>  First name  </U></I> and <I><U>  first name  </U></I>will depend on the loving support of a community of people, friends, and family to make their declarations of intention real and vital throughout their whole lives.</div> <bR> <div> <B>     </B>And so I ask the family and friends of <I><U>  first name  </U></I> and <I><U>  first name  </U></I> to stand.</div> <bR> <div>      Will you support and nurture the marriage of <I><U>  first name  </U></I>and <I><U>  first name  </U></I> , taking each as your family and friend, supporting them, listening to them, and encouraging their mutual relationship?  If so, respond by saying, “We will.”</div> <bR> <div>      You may be seated.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Declaration of Intent</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B>Before God and this congregation, <I><U>  first name  </U></I> and <I><U>  first name  </U></I>, I now ask you to affirm your willingness to enter this covenant of holy union and to share all the joys and sorrows of this new relationship lived in promise, whatever the future may hold.</div> <bR> <div>      <I><U>  First name  </U></I>, will you have <I><U>  first name  </U></I>to be your wife/ partner, and will you love her/him faithfully as long as you both shall live?  If so, say, “I will with the Spirit of God.”</div> <bR> <div>      <I><U>First name  </U></I>, will you have <I><U>  first name  </U></I>to be your husband/ partner, and will you love him/her faithfully as long as you both shall live?  If so, say, “I will with the Spirit of God.”</div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>Scripture Reading/Special Reading</B></div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Ruth 1:16-17</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Ecclesiastes 4:7-12</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Song of Solomon 8:6-7</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Matthew 5:1-9</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Colossians 3:12-17</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">John 2:1-10</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">John 15:12-17</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">I Corinthians 13</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Colossians 3:12-17</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.png" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Revelation 21:1-4</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Message</B></I></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>It is customary for the couple to ascend the stairs after the </B></I><B>Message</B><I><B> to be on the same level as the officiant while the vows are being spoken.  They shall turn to face one another and hold hands as they speak the vows.</B></I></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Vows</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I> and <I><U>  first name  </U></I>, speak your covenant promises that you come to offer before God.</div> <bR> <div> <B>Bride/Partner:  </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I>, I give myself to you; to be your wife/partner; I promise to love and sustain you; in the covenant of marriage; from this day forward; in sickness and in health; in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; as long as we both shall live.</div> <bR> <div> <B>Groom/Partner:  </B><I><U>First name  </U></I>, I give myself to you; to be your husband/partner; I promise to love and sustain you; in the covenant of marriage; from this day forward; in sickness and in health; in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; as long as we both shall live.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Exchange of Rings</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:   </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I>and <I><U>  first name  </U></I>, what will you share to symbolize your love?</div> <bR> <div> <B>Couple:  </B>These rings.</div> <bR> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B>By these symbols of covenant promise, gracious God, remind <I><U>  first name  </U></I>and <I><U>  first name  </U></I> of your encircling love and unending faithfulness that in all their life together they may know joy and peace in one another.</div> <bR> <div>             <B>Groom/Partner:  </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I>, I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.</div> <bR> <div>             <B>Bride/Partner:  </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I>, I receive this ring as a sign of our love and faithfulness.</div> <bR> <div>             <B>Bride/Partner: </B><I>  </I><I><U>First name  </U></I>, I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.</div> <bR> <div> <B>            Groom/Partner:  </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I>, I receive this ring as a sign of our love and faithfulness.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Lighting of the Unity Candle</B></I></div> <div> The couple may choose to blow out the single candles or leave the candles lit after the lighting of the unity candle.  It is customary to have a musical selection special to the couple played at this time.</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Announcement of Marriage</B></I></div> <div> <B>Officiant:  </B><I><U>  First name  </U></I> and <I><U>  first name  </U></I>, you are wife and husband/ partners with the blessing of Christ's church.  Be merciful in all your ways, kind in heart, and humble in mind.  Accept life, and be most patient and gracious with one another.  Forgive as freely as God forgives.</div> <bR> <div> And above everything else, be truly loving.  Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, may passion be seen in your eyes, and remember that as members of one body, you are called to live in harmony, and never forget to be thankful for what God has done for you.</div> <bR> <div> The grace of Christ attend you; the love of God surround you; the Holy Spirit keep you that you may grow in holy love; find delight in each other always, and remain faithful until your life's end.  Amen.</div> <bR> <div>      You may kiss.</div> <bR> <div>      Would those who are able please stand.</div> <bR> <div>      I present to this gathered congregation, <I><U>  title couple wishes for the announcement of marriage  </U></I>.  Amen.</div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>Recessional </B></div> <div> <A HREF="#recessional" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><I><B>See Wedding  Music Suggestions</B></I></A></div> <bR> <div> <B>----------------------------------------------------------------------</B></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <bR> <div> <B> <A NAME="conditions_for_use_of_space_for_holy"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>Conditions for Use of space for Holy Unions</B></div> <bR> <div> If neither bride nor groom is a member or associate member of the United Church of Christ in North Hampton (UCC in NH), a member or associate member of the UCC in NH must sponsor the Holy Union.  Sponsorship by a member or associate member of the UCC in NH means that this person will sign the <I>Space Use Request</I> form for the person using the space and/or equipment within the space and will be accountable for any extra cleanup needed or payment for damage done to space or equipment.</div> <bR> <div> The Pastor and Church Organist reserve right of first refusal, i.e., the bride and groom cannot use another Officiant or hire another organist without the prior approval of the Pastor or Church Organist.</div> <bR> <div> Respect for church property through counseling to rehearsal to ceremony.  This respect includes asking to use specific church property before its use, remaining only in areas of the church building necessary for your counseling, rehearsal, and wedding.</div> <bR> <div> No alcoholic beverages are allowed on church property except for sacramental purposes.</div> <bR> <div> No smoking is allowed in the buildings.  Outside smoking is permitted as long as smoking remnants are not left on the ground.</div> <bR> <div> If space is used without reservation of the kitchen, no food or refreshments may be served.</div> <bR> <div> All users of space will return the space and any equipment within the space to its original condition.  Cleaning supplies are kept in the closets in the hallway next to the kitchen.</div> <bR> <div> If the kitchen is used, the user must clean it.  This includes washing, drying, and putting away all utensils and wiping down the counters.  </div> <bR> <div> No tacks, glue or putty may be used on the walls, doors, or ceiling.  Tape that does not leave a mark may be used.</div> <bR> <div> The user will ensure before departure that all people have left, all lights are out, and the heat has been returned to recommended setting.</div> <bR> <div> If meeting outside of usual church hours (every day, 9:00 AM to 9:00 PM), the user must ensure that the doors are locked upon departure by having the sponsor, sexton, minister or another church member with access to keys agree to lock up the space.</div> <bR> <div> <B>The church requires the full amount of payment upon reservation of the space.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>------------------------------------------------------------------------</B></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B> <A NAME="holy_union_space_use_request__members_"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>Holy Union Space Use Request (Members)</B></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Please type or print clearly.</B></I></div> <bR> <div> Proposed time and date for rehearsal <U>                                                                                                                                      </U></div> <div>     </div> <bR> <div> Proposed time and date for ceremony <U>                                                                                                                                     </U></div> <bR> <div> Names and addresses of couple:</div> <bR> <div>      Bride <U>                                                                                                                                                                                 </U></div> <bR> <div>               _________________________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div>      Groom <U>                                                                                                                                                                               </U></div> <bR> <div>                 ________________________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Phone numbers (please include area code) and e-mail addresses (if available):</div> <bR> <div> Bride <U>                                                                                                                                                                          </U></div> <bR> <div> Groom <U>                                                                                                                                                                        </U></div> <bR> <div> Local contact address and phone number (if the couple does not live in the NH).  Please indicate relation to the contact.</div> <bR> <div>            __________________________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div>            __________________________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Does one or both of the couple have membership in the United Church of Christ in North Hampton?     </div> <bR> <div> Bride:     Yes <U>            </U>     No <U>            </U>          Groom:        Yes <U>            </U>     No <U>            </U></div> <bR> <div> Signature of Accountable Party (person with church membership; whether bride or groom): </div> <bR> <div> <U>                                                                                                                              </U>Date: <U>                                                         </U></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>I have read and understand the “Conditions for Use of Space for Holy Unions”.</B></I></div> <bR> <bR> <div> Signature of Building Use Coordinator/Office Manager:</div> <bR> <div> <U>                                                                                                                             </U>Date: <U>                                                         </U></div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>-------------------------------------</B></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B> <A NAME="holy_union_space_use_request"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>Holy Union Space Use Request (Non-Members)</B></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Please type or print clearly.</B></I></div> <bR> <div> Proposed time and date for rehearsal <U>                                                                                                                                     </U></div> <div>     </div> <bR> <div> Proposed time and date for ceremony <U>                                                                                                                                   </U></div> <bR> <div> Names and addresses of couple:</div> <bR> <div>      Bride <U>                                                                                                                                                                               </U></div> <bR> <div>               ________________________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div>      Groom <U>                                                                                                                                                                             </U></div> <bR> <div>                 _______________________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Phone numbers (please include area code) and e-mail addresses (if available):</div> <bR> <div> Bride <U>                                                                                                                                                                        </U></div> <bR> <div> Groom <U>                                                                                                                                                                      </U> </div> <bR> <div> Local contact address and phone number (if the couple does not live in the NH).  Please indicate relation to the contact.</div> <bR> <div> <U>___________________________________________________________________________________________</U></div> <bR> <div> <U>___________________________________________________________________________________________</U></div> <bR> <div> Does the couple have a sponsor who is a member of the United Church of Christ in North Hampton who will be responsible and accountable for whatever damage may occur in the use of the church space?          </div> <bR> <div>           Yes <U>             </U>     No <U>            </U></div> <bR> <div> If yes, please give the sponsor's name, address and phone number:</div> <bR> <div> <U>_____________________________________________________________________________________________</U></div> <bR> <div> <U>_____________________________________________________________________________________________</U></div> <bR> <div> If no, please state the reason why you are asking Church Council for an exception:</div> <bR> <div> <U>______________________________________________________________________________________________</U></div> <bR> <div> <U>______________________________________________________________________________________________</U></div> <bR> <div> <I>Please indicate which spaces you will be reserving for your event(s).  The monetary amounts listed are suggested donations for use of space.  Cash or checks accepted - the church requires full payment upon reservation of space.</I></div> <bR> <div> <B>Checks should be made out to United Church of Christ, North Hampton.    </B></div> <div>  </div> <div> *Sanctuary                   <U>             </U>      ($200)               Classroom(s)         <U>             </U>      ($25)            </div> <div> Vestry with kitchen       <U>             </U>      ($100)                Budd Room          <U>             </U>      ($25)            </div> <div> Vestry without kitchen  <U>             </U>      ($50)                  Charrier Hall          <U>             </U>      ($25)                 </div> <div> Little River Church       <U>             </U>      ($100)                Sexton's fee          <U>             </U>      ($40)</div> <bR> <div> <I><B>* Sanctuary may be used only with the approval of the Minister or Church Council.</B></I></div> <bR> <div> Signature of Accountable Party (Sponsor): </div> <bR> <div> <U>                                                                                                                                    </U>Date: <U>                                                 </U></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>I have read and understand the “Conditions for Use of Space for Holy Unions”.</B></I></div> <bR> <div> Signature of Building Use Coordinator/Office Manager:</div> <bR> <div> <U>                                                                                                                                   </U>Date: <U>                                                  </U></div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>--------------------------------------</B></div> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" TITLE="Wedding Policies"><B>(Back to Top)</B></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B> <A NAME="united_church_of_christ_in_north_hampton"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B><B>United Church of Christ in North Hampton</B></div> <div> <B>Hospitality Reception Policies</B></div> <bR> <div> Questions asked of people who would like the Hospitality Committee to hold a reception:</div> <bR> <div> Particular Reception (e.g., wedding, funeral, special anniversary)</div> <bR> <div> ________________________________________________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Day of the Week:  ________________________</div> <bR> <div> Time of Day: ____________________________</div> <bR> <div> With the present Hospitality Committee, Saturdays and Wednesday afternoons are preferable (2:00 p.m.).</div> <bR> <div> Date:  __________________________________</div> <bR> <div> Approximate size of the reception:  _______________________</div> <bR> <div> Sandwiches or desserts and coffee:  _______________________</div> <bR> <div> Member donation will be $20.</div> <bR> <div> Connected to the church will be $25.</div> <bR> <div> Unrelated to the church in any way will be $50.</div> <bR> <div> Receptions will also be hosted for:  </div> <div> Zimbabwe Sunday  (May 5, 2002-first Sunday in May)</div> <div> Graduation Sunday     (June 9, 2002-generally, the second Sunday in June)</div> <div> Recovenanting Sunday/Rally Day  (September 8, 2002-Sunday after Labor Day)</div> <div> Confirmation Sunday  (November 24, 2002-generally, the last Sunday in November)</div> <div> Special anniversaries in the church</div> <div> Funerals</div> <div> Weddings</div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>-----------------------------------------------------------------------</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <A HREF="#wedding_policies" 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